Even though the title says “not the song,” I’m going to talk a lot about the Frozen song, “Let It Go”. About a year and a half ago my world was turned upside down! I just found out I was pregnant. I was over the moon with excitement until my husband told me he was ready for a divorce. I knew things weren’t great between us, but we both kept trying to hide it for a long time. For some reason though, I tried to hold onto him and the relationship. I think I was trying to do this because of our unborn child. But then one day I decided to just let it go, and that was one of the best days. Here are some reasons why letting it go is for the best.
I stressed way too much the first few months of my pregnancy because I couldn’t let go of the relationship. It wasn’t healthy for me or my baby. I literally felt the stress melt away when I decided to let it go because I didn’t have to worry about it any more. I didn’t have to think about it or care about it.
The stress of holding onto what was led to me being very grumpy. It put a strain on my relationships with friends and family. My friends avoided me because they didn’t want to hear me complain or whine about what was going on. There was also another relationship it affected, the one with a man who was my Mr. Right. I was too busy holding onto the past that I couldn’t see what was right under my nose. I thought we were just friends and he was just helping me through a difficult time, but it turned out that he was trying to win me over. That man has a lot of patience. Took me a whole year to smarten up!
Life is Short
Time is never promised. Choose the people and the things you do carefully because you may never get that time back. I could have been spending those first few months of my pregnancy enjoying it instead of mulling over what was. I could have been in a happy relationship sooner with my now husband if I had just let it go earlier. Think about how you want to remember your time on Earth as you lay on your death-bed. Do you want to be remembering the bad times that you couldn’t let go or the good times because you let go? Life is short, so make sure you are spending every minute of it doing what you want to do.
Forgive and Heal
You will never heal if you keep opening up old wounds. Not letting go is like a kid who can’t leave a scab alone. It never heals or leaves an annoying scar because it couldn’t be left alone. But if you leave the scab alone, it should heal fine with no mark of the past. The same goes for letting go of experiences. If you keep replaying it or trying to make it work, you will never heal. You will be scarred and it will be difficult to move on later down the road. If you let it go quickly, you will heal just fine.
Part of letting go is forgiving. Yes, you were hurt, but forgiving that person for what they have done to you will help heal the soul.
Makes you Stronger
I am a much stronger person because of my experiences. I have accomplished a lot more in this past year than I have ever imagined I would have. I learned how to stand up for myself and my beliefs. I have learned how to love myself and let myself be loved.
Letting go is hard. I remember when I decided to let it go, I started listening to Frozen’s “Let It Go” over and over and over again. I was like a little kid who wants to hear the same bedtime story every night for 3 months. It helped though! The song constantly reminded me to just let it go and everything will be all right!
What are your best tips for letting things go? I would love to hear from you!
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