As many of you know, I’m a former teacher. I’ve taught children from 2 years old up until 4th grade, so I thought I knew our approach to early childhood education. But I was so wrong! When I got into the blogging world, I began reading a lot of blogs about homeschooling, early childhood, and specific approaches to education. After reading each post, my mind would be set to teach in that specific way.
I recently read an entire blog. Yes, every single post from the beginning to end because I was so in love with the way Kate was homeschooling her kiddos. I visited An Everyday Story, every day for the past month reading 2-3 posts a day. I wanted to homeschool just like her.
But every time I tired to recreate her style, I failed. I spent tons of money on materials just because she was using them with her kiddos. After multiple failed attempts I started reflecting on my approach to homeschooling my toddler. I loved the Reggio approach, but Reggio isn’t a methodical approach to early childhood education.
After thinking a bit, I realized that I just need to follow the core values of the Reggio approach instead of recreating the Reggio inspried activities I see on Pinterests and other blogs. The main value of any Reggio approach is to follow the lead of the child. Observe, document, and plan activities that will capture that individual child’s interest.
Choosing the Right Approach for Your Child
When we sit down to think about the school year, we may read articles and fall in love with a particular style of learning. However, our children may not think it’s the best way for them to learn. You may love Montessori, but your child doesn’t respond to those types of activities. Your child may learn better with structured activities, but you want a more independent approach. Sometimes we have to let go of our preconceived notions and just listen to our children.
If they are not learning or either of you are frustrated over activities, then it’s time to rethink your approach. You don’t need to follow one approach because it’s something you believe in. You don’t even need to follow a specific approach if you found something that works better for your child.
Take time to follow your heart. I was refusing to do certain activities because the materials weren’t natural, like a Reggio inspired activity. My daughter missed out on some really awesome activities that could have been a good learning experience because I was being stubborn about our approach.
The Turning Point
What really lead me to this conclusion was the fact that I felt like I needed to teach some academics. I wasn’t completely sold on the idea of children learning these academic concepts (shapes, colors, numbers, letters) on their own through play. I was struggling with the lack of pre-planned activities that I knew my daughter would love and learn from.
My Conclusion
This week I started to follow my heart. I’m still a full fledged Reggio supporter, but after countless hours of research and reflection, my take on the Reggio approach is much different. Their is no specific way to teach the Reggio approach. I feel as long as you are documenting, observing, and planning activities around your child’s abilities and interest then you are following Reggio.
Don’t feel forced to follow an approach or curriculum because it’s the new “thing.” It’s okay to mix multiple approaches or add in your own flare. The bottom line is you need to follow your heart and do what is best for your child.
With this realization in our homeschool, things have changed a bit around our house. I’ll be writing another post this month about the changes we’ve made.
Your Turn: What is your approach to homeschooling? Do you follow one specific approach or multiple? Or do you just do your own thing?
Print & Play Calendar

Simple, low prep activities that can be modified for toddlers and preschoolers on a simple calendar. No more worrying about how to keep the kids entertained. Just print and go!
I never homeschooled my children. I do, however, remember searching for the “right” preschool. My daughter and I visited three schools and I watched as she interacted with the kids and teachers. I found out that the school she loved was the one where she came running back to me to tell me how much fun she was having. With the other schools she just sat and did what she was suppose to do. I found out she needed a school with structure. To this day, she is still someone who loves structure and a schedule. Somehow you both figure out what’s right together.
Exactly every child is different, and what you want may not be what they need. Sicily hates messes and it drives me up the wall because I love messy play. I offer it, but not on a regular basis because I know she hates it.
I got hung up on the whole choosing “which approach is best for my daughter” thing for awhile until it finally dawned on me to just mix and match. I think that will be best for us because I love different aspects of Reggio, Montessori, and Waldorf, but some aspects I just can’t get on board with. As long as my daughter seems to be enjoying what we’re doing, I’ll keep on truckin’. š
Exactly! Parents seem to think that they have to pick one approach and that’s the be all method. But most families will be more successful with a mix of approaches. I struggled with this as well. I love Reggio and being child-led, but I’m not comfortable waiting until she shows signs of being ready to learn the academics like colors, shapes, letters, and numbers.
Such a great post, I don’t have children but I really love the idea of home schooling. I think I will definitely consider this when I have children
My daughter is a social butterfly even at an early age. So I’m taking that into consideration as well.
Check out what your local community has for homeschoolers. Many communities nowadays have tons of co-ops or social situations for homeschoolers. Sicily is social as long as you’re not social back. She will say hi to everyone in the store until someone talks back to her. Then she is done!
Thank you for this post. I will be homeschooling our daughter we are adopting from China next month. We will start slowly as she learns English but I am sure it will all be play based at first. I will be following your blog for more ideas in the future.
You are welcome! Congrats on the adoption of your daughter!